A Bit About Me

I’ve been spending a lot of time recently thinking about ‘Me’. Now, that might sound extremely narcissistic and egotistical but I’ve been thinking about who ‘I’ am. Who is Danny Potter? And to be honest, i’m struggling.

Actually if I’m being brutally honest, I’m extremely disappointed with myself.

I’m not necessarily disappointed with the person I’ve become. In fact I consider myself to be a nice guy with morals, a sense of decency and above average intelligence. But I have gradually grown to become disappointed with my lack of a sense of self-worth. And I think over the years this has been my downfall. I’ve spent far too little time taking care of myself, body, mind and spirit. I have neglected my metal health; not paying enough attention to my anxiety, my social anxiety, which at times can be absolutely crippling. I’ve never really spoken about it, and have instead always worn a smile to cover up how I’m feeling. And unfortunately, I’ve become far too good at hiding it.

It’s very difficult for a big, 6ft 8″ guy to talk about something like this, to anyone, including family; this blog post is hard enough, let me tell you! As an English male it’s a kind of unwritten rule that feelings aren’t exactly something that you should constantly talk about; especially those which have typically been a sign of weakness, like anxiety, or any other form of mental illness.

Here’s a little list: 

”Cheer up”

“It’s not that bad”

“You don’t have anxiety, you’re always smiling”

“Just get out of the house, you’ll feel much better.”

“Make some friends”

These are THE worst things to say to someone who suffers from anxiety. And I get every single one of them thrown my way all too often.

The thing is, i’m getting to a position where none of these things seem to bother me anymore. I don’t feel bad when I want to spend time alone because regardless of what people what might think, it doesn’t mean i’m lonely. I don’t feel like i’m spiralling in to depression whenever I don’t feel like smiling or laughing because no matter what people say, you don’t have to be cheerful all the time. It might seem like a bit of a cliché but it’s very true that sometimes it’s okay not to be okay. It’s ok to sit alone, in your bedroom, mobile turned to silent or airplane mode and just ignore absolutely everyone. It’s ok to feel shit sometimes because you don’t-for once-feel like smiling just for the sake of smiling. I know they say that your mood or your attitude affects the people around you and that can be true, but surely the most important thing is to make sure that if you do suffer from a mental illness that you look after yourself first. Surely if the people around know that you suffer from anxiety or anything else like it then they will understand and stand by you and if they don’t then you know what to do. Cut ‘em out.

At the start of this year I made the decision to 100% delete my Facebook account. Not deactivate it so I can come back whenever I want but delete it, fully. Facebook is the absolute worst form of social media. It is vile. It is damaging to society and although I loved everyone I had on Facebook, the truth is I fucking hated them all when they were on Facebook. Everyone changes, everyone becomes a different person on Facebook, they talk differently, they become bitchy and foul-mouthed and they judge EVERYONE for EVERYTHING. I stick to Instagram and Twitter (mostly Instagram) and although they can be awful at times and a lot of the time you’re seeing only the best of someones life, their showreel if you you like, it feels more real than Facebook. Weird. I follow celebrities and the usual types on Instagram but when it comes to people I know I only ever have the people I absolutely want on there, people I feel absolutely comfortable around. It was different on Facebook, where you feel obligated to have old ‘friends’ and family members you only see at funerals.  

Heres my advice:

Cut anyone and everyone out of your life who makes you feel small, hurt, humiliated, stupid, worthless etc. Do it swiftly and violently and without remorse.

It may seem harsh but it works. I didn’t feel bad when i deleted Facebook, I felt relief. I have in my life and on my social media only those who I absolutely want to be there and that’s that. Simple.

If you’ve managed to get this far and you’re a friend or a family member that I have on Instagram just know I appreciate you. All of you. Even if we don’t know each other that well or if we don’t see each other as much as we ought to. Just know that if you EVER need someone to talk to, about ANYTHING i’m here for you. Whenever. If you feel like you can’t talk to anyone else, know that you can come to me for anything. Whether that’s advice, a shoulder to cry on or simply just someone who’ll sit and listen. I’m here. I love ya.

Anyway until next time…

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Tackling Social Anxiety

Ah Social Anxiety. You massive pain in the arse.

My whole life i’ve struggled in social situations; never really clicked with them. When I meet new people they think i’m shy or probably think i’m a little rude for not talking. The truth is that i’m not a shy person, once you get to know me you’ll see that but if I feel any whiff of anxiety in me then you’re not getting a word out of me. If I meet you for the first time, i’ll come across as shy; same probably goes for the second and third times. But If I can sit opposite you and have a conversation after knowing you for a short period of time then you best believe I enjoy your company and that I feel absolutely comfortable around you because there are people i’ve known my whole life who I still feel like I can’t have a conversation with. 

It’s not that I don’t like people. I love people. They’re great. In fact I know some pretty fucking amazing people. No it’s not that. It’s that in situations where there are lots of people I feel like screaming and running away. And that’s not a nice feeling. I don’t go out much but when I do I end up having a great time. I love talking to people, love listening to them talk passionately about something they love. In fact I’ll sit listen to you for hours if I see that you have a smile on your face and you simply can’t stop because it excites you so much to talk about whatever it is you love. So it’s not that I don’t like being around people. It’s that my brain, whenever faced with loud noises and dozens of people talking all at once says “RUN. NOW!” But I don’t want that. So I’m working on it. And it’s hard but I know I’ll get there. 

Look, i’ve never spoken about my mental health and i’ve suffered for it. Over the years my social anxiety got worse and I find it very difficult to cope in a lot of social situations. But recently i’ve made some changes in my life-small changes i’ll admit-that i feel are a step in the right direction to where I want to be headed. The most important thing i’ve made changes on is that I’ve learnt to care less about what people think of me, or more importantly, what I think people are thinking when they look at me. 

You know when you’re walking down the street and you think that everyone is looking at you and judging you? Well yes, it is true that in most cases that isn’t what’s happening and people are in fact getting on with their lives and couldn’t give a shit about what you’re doing, what you’re wearing, what colour you’re hair is etc but I happen to know for a fact that when i’m walking down a street people ARE looking at me. They are staring at me and it’s for one very annoying reason. I’m tall. Really tall. And i’ve seen he looks that i get from people, as if i’m some sort of alien. And for that reason I think I always dressed a certain way because if I can draw as little attention to myself as possible i’ll be alright. So that’s one thing i’ve started tackling, not giving a fuck about what people think when they see me. So I wear the clothes I want to be wearing and I dye my hair the colour I want it to be because that’s how I feel comfortable. And now, when I see people looking at my new funky clothing (which is all fucking AWESOME by the way) I figure i’m doing something right, not wrong. Let them look. Fuck ‘em.

You might think it’s crazy, “Surely changing your wardrobe can’t help things”. Well it can’t, not everything anyway but one of my biggest obstacles is confidence and if I can feel more confident then it changes my outlook on a whole bunch of stuff. 

Simple really.

I’m gonna leave it there for now. I feel like i want this to be a more serialised set of posts for i’ll keep them nice and short. Think of this as an Intro to the bunch.

If you some how stumble upon this and you feel like you feel the same way then feel free to drop a comment and let me know your thoughts on the whole Social Anxiety subject.

Until next time…

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Enough With The ‘MAN UP!’

 

It really doesn’t matter where you’re from, what your background is like or who said it, the term ‘Man Up’ is something every guy has heard at some point in his life. And actually, most women will hear it directed at them at some point, I mean seriously? This term might have had a place in our history in the past, but it’s the 21st Century, people, come on! In two very simple words, the person who said it to you wants you to conform to the really rather ridiculous stereotype that says “there’s only one type of man and you must be it to survive!”… F*** OFF!

One example of this ‘guy-culture’ is sports. I honestly can’t even count the amount of times I’ve had to explain to someone why I don’t like Football. Like if someone gave me the choice of going to a football game or going to see a play at the theatre, my answer would be all too easy. At some point in our history, men have been told they’re not allowed to like certain things if they want to be classed as a ‘real man’. Allow me to give some examples, all of which I love, by the way..

  • Musicals – Les Miserable is my favourite.
  • Baths – I mean really?
  • Pop music – Don’t ever diss Taylor!
  • The colour pink – for goodness sake!
  • Certain fashion items – I love my poncho cape, don’t judge.

The list can go on and on and on…

So basically in terms of ‘manning up’, if you like these things you’re in serious danger of being called gay, or a ‘big girl’s blouse’. Which lets be honest, isn’t a massive insult, is it. Bit of a weak insult, really, and ironically that’s not very manly! But if, like myself, you happen to be a heterosexual dude just trudging along, doing your best, you’re not allowed these things!

It is becoming a little less taboo for a guy to like these things given, you know, it’s the 21st century and there’s nothing wrong with enjoying a nice bath every now and again. But it still gets me down a bit when I hear anyone use the phrase ‘man up’, especially when directed toward a young lad. As if by ‘manning up’ and not doing any of the bulleted things above they will immediately become a better, stronger person. Um…no, you fool, I can be a f****** straight guy and wear pink, chill. I can listen to and belt out Adele lyrics if I want, you fool. As a wise man once said ‘I was at the O2 singing my lungs out rude boy you’re never too big for Adele’ (If you know you know haha). And if I want to binge-watch Disney movies all day, i’m doing it. Best believe you’re opinion are falling on deaf ears, you fool.

I guess this post is aimed more at guys who really don’t fit the stereotype of ‘lad culture’ or the ideal of ‘man up’.

My dudes, it is ok.

Short short short post today, but I think a very important message. I may very well post a follow up to this on Wednesday.

Let me know what you think of the phrase ‘Man Up’.

 

And until next time…

BYE!

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A Quick Word About DAVE ERASMUS

I love discovering inspirational people on YouTube and other social media platforms; it gives me real sense of pride in our online communities. This short post is all about DAVE ERASMUS; The man in woods, the guy with the hut, lover of huge courgettes and admirer of butterflies and bluebells (Yes, his content really is that adorable!)

Now, this is YouTube we’re talking about, so I didn’t just stumble upon him one day. I saw Dave in other videos posted by other YouTubers, Alfie Deyes (PointlessBlog) being the most prominent. He always seems to me to be someone who loves life. I don’t mean that in a generic sense, I mean he genuinely loves ALL life. His living in the woods isn’t some stunt for views, its real. Him looking at a butterfly in awe and being genuinely happy to have seen it isn’t fake or staged, its real. The fact that he waited all those weeks just to see the first bluebell pop out of the ground, and then getting so exited on camera when he finally saw one isn’t fake, it’s real emotion. It’s all real love for all life. I don’t know, he just seems like a genuinely good guy.

To give you an idea of the kind of guy Dave is, here is one of his videos on YouTube. (I really hope I don’t get in to trouble for using this video!)

I mean did you SEE his reaction to seeing the glowing caterpillar for the first time?! How can you not like watching that? There’s a very good reason Dave’s Like:Dislike ratio is so big on his videos. This one for example, 748 Likes to 3 Dislikes, THREE!

Dave has decided to- as he states in his twitter bio- Live ON+OFF Grid Building & Enjoying Corcovado. Corcovado is the name he has given the land on which he is now living. He is gradually building his very own shepherds hut out of any sustainable materials he can find, which have the lowest possible impact on the planet and his immediate environment. He is, in the meantime, living in a pre-built hut. Not too shabby.

His new hut (bigger) is coming along nicely…

If making his own hut wasn’t enough of a project to tackle, he also (with the help of Sean (@seanelliottoc) and Alfie (@PointlessBlog) completely restored an old van in to something quite amazing. They sold it on Ebay for roughly £2000 and any money raised was given to a charity of their choosing. Lads Lads Lads!

YouTube gets bad press all the time. This person has said that, he or she did this or that. But every now and again someone (Dave in this case, obviously) comes along in his built-from-scratch shepherds huts, homemade wooden furniture, freshly grown organic veg, DANCEFLOOR IN THE BLOOMIN’ WOODS! and restores all faith in humanity (and thankfully, YouTube). And all done with the help from a whole bunch of people who watch his videos and who, like Dave, want to make a difference in how we perceive our planet, and how we can move forward as a more sustainable and environmentally friendly species.

YouTube (if you go to the right places) can be such an inspirational place. And YouTubers like Dave are a complete testament to that. You can be having a stressful day, or just be feeling a bit down in the dumps and you go to Dave’s channel, or you go to Alfie’s channel or you go to whichever is your favourite channel and for 10 minutes or so, everything is cool and everything is calm and chill. And that’s what I love about Dave. It’s a feel-good channel, full to the brim with like-minded people all coming together to make something amazing.

Cheers, Dave 🙂

Please do go over to Dave’s YouTube channel (Psst tell him Danny sent ya) and give his videos all the love they deserve. He’s a champ!

 

And until next time…

BYE!

Little disclaimer > I do not own any of the photographs in this blog post, nor do I own the video (That’s all Dave).

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Happiness Is Confusing!

This is a kind of follow-up post, I guess, to the one I posted on Sunday ‘Be Thankful’. I’ve added a couple of points I had left out (forgotten about) in Sunday’s post. Happiness is a strange thing. Do we really understand it?

You know it’s funny, people think that they have to have ‘Things’ to be happy; Lots of money, property, cars… More money. But does it really ensure happiness? I mean sure it can make life easier; it can buy lots of things that you wouldn’t otherwise have access to; You can relax and have fewer worries. But those things don’t make happiness. It sounds like such a cliche and i’m sure you’ve all heard it before, but to me, Happiness really is enjoying the little things.

It’s such a strange concept to some people; “How can you be happy without money?” I can’t even express how sorry I feel for these unfortunate people. They’ve been caught up in a world where money rules, and unfortunately for them, they’ve been made victims of that nasty culture.  By nasty culture I am in fact referring to my own culture, but it seems to me that it’s how you interpret the word happiness that is the most important thing. Your surroundings should never have any affect on who you are and how you behave, regardless what society wants you to believe. Everyone has a choice, and it’s the limits of your own imagination and ambition that will get in the way of your future – the future you actually want, not the one you’re expected to lead.

I like to talk about this kind of subject, it interests me because it’s such a personal thing. You could ask dozens, hundreds of people the same question – What is happiness? – and you might not get the same answer once. The human mind is an amazing thing, and the different ways that individuals will perceive the same topic is mind boggling. I will never understand it, the human brain – and I think i’d rather not , if I’m honest. I just see it as a rather marvellous and wonderful thing. I also don’t think anyone will ever truly understand the human brain, it’s far too complicated. Which I guess kind of means that it’s too complicated to understand itself… (OK my brain now hurts).

But trust me, I’m no brain scientist (that’s what they’re called, right?). Maybe one day someone will come along with all the answers; maybe someone already has all the answers. Who knows. Happiness, in my opinion at least is a hard one to pin down. Take a look at these charts from 2014 (i’m assuming that since then, because of Brexit and Trump and the like, that things may have slightly altered in the west…) showing the percentages of people around the world who believe they are happy, and a separate chart showing those who want a simpler life:

The graphs essentially show that people are happy with their hectic lifestyles but at the same time wish their lives were more simple. Maybe, then, population is a key factor? With countries such as India, China and the US (with their massive population) at the top half of the ‘I wish my life was more simple’ chart. But then at the same time, these same countries are in the top half of the ‘Happiness’ chart… Yeah, i’m baffled. And it can’t possibly have anything to do with crime rates, seeing as countries such as Sweden (very low crime rate) and South Africa (relatively high crime rate) are so close to each other in the happiness chart. I guess what i’m getting at is happiness is an entirely random and personal thing. If you choose to be happy, wherever on Earth you happen to be, then you will be happy. Money, in my humble opinion doesn’t and shouldn’t have to be a contributing factor either; different cultures see different definitions to the word happiness, and some might not require money to define that happiness.

Not a very long post today, but this is a subject i’m really interested in- happiness, the human mind and how it perceives things differently depending on who you are, where you live and how you’ve been raised. So I’m probably going to do more of these posts, every now and again, because there will always be little bits that I somehow miss out.

If you have any thoughts on this topic, or if you would like to see more like this one, please feel free to get involved and leave a comment 🙂

 

Until next time…

BYE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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BE THANKFUL!

You hear people say it a lot, these days – “oh i’m so jealous of this person” or “i’m really jealous that they have this or that” – and I suppose that’s fine. People will always be jealous of others whom they believe to have more than them. But I think if those same people spent more time being thankful for what they actually have, then they would become happier over time, as they’re not constantly lusting over the things that others might have. For example, sure those people have a bigger house, they have a nicer car and their clothes are more expensive; and i’m sure that those things allow the person to live a comfortable and happy lifestyle. But if you focused on what you do have; a loving home, a car that gets you from A to B, and clothes on your back; you’ll be more aware that there are others who are looking at you at that very moment wishing for those simple things that you take for granted every single day.

You see we spend our lives seeking ‘more’, we want more money, we want a bigger house, we want a flash car, we want nice clothes from top brands and we want everyone to see us enjoying all of those things. If one day you end up achieving that, and you get all those things, then so be it; you got it, flaunt it. Why not? But right now you might not have it so be thankful for all the other wonderful things in your life.

I myself try my absolute hardest to make sure I see the good side of every situation. For example the other day I walked in to town to grab a coffee. Now this isn’t anything special but on that particular day i’d been told that i’d been unsuccessful in getting a job for which i’d gone to an interview. Usually i’d go back home, have a sulk and think about how useless the successful candidate would be at the job compared to myself. But that day I went out and grabbed a coffee and as I was walking home I suddenly felt a wave of happiness wash over me. I was in such a good mood and really, I had no reason to be. But, the weather was incredible, the coffee was good, the people I walked by all had smiles on their faces, I had a smile on my face and at that moment in time, just that half hour walking home, life was ok, all was good. You see, seeing the good things in life- that every situation and every moment, no matter how bad it first may seem, in a good light, is what makes it all worthwhile. I didn’t have the job; but I had my health, my coffee and a smile to go with it. I also saw a little dalmatian puppy, and for some reason those little guys are mad rare these days, so if that doesn’t make you happy, I don’t know what will.

There is, however, an issue to this. I’ve found, in my extensive research (a bit of googling and mostly common sense if i’m honest…) that Social Media is the main culprit for this absolute tidal wave and age of jealousy and hate.  Then it comes to kids, children who are being made to grow up far too quickly these days. Magazines, Instagram, Reality Television, ‘Celebrity Culture’; they’re all contributing factors to children as young as 10 or 11 wanting to grow up, and in effect, skip childhood altogether! Being a kid isn’t ‘cool’ anymore, especially if you’re a kid. We also seem to be living in a whole new and advanced-level age of selfish, greedy, ungrateful children who, with all their iPhones and iPads and iMacs and iPods and – i’m sensing a little trend here… My point is, kids these days never seem satisfied with what they’ve got, and the ‘things’ that they are given are never good enough because they’ll never size up to whatever the latest ‘thing’ is.

I don’t know. Maybe this is a western thing. Maybe in other cultures children aren’t so hell bent on becoming famous, or rich. Maybe in other cultures children are raised and taught to love and be grateful, and to not expect the best and the newest and for sure, taught not to expect the world to fall to their wants and desires. Maybe in other cultures children are taught that what they have, that what their parents can give them, is enough. Maybe they’re taught that hard work, graft, ambition and dedication are what it takes to create a better life for themselves. Maybe they’re taught that reality television isn’t reality at all and that that path is only there for those seeking greed and fame, not happiness. But what do I know.

I guess what i’m trying to get at with this post, should anyone see it, is that life is full of ‘things’ that are going to eventually make you feel jealous or envious of others. Life is full of people and ‘celebrities’ and magazines and social media all in cahoots as to how they can form a plan to make you feel a little worse about yourself. And for the most part, they’ll succeed. It is a shame but that’s just the culture we live in. My point is that perhaps if people tried a little harder to ignore the bad side of this ‘social media society’ – for example the teen magazines telling ten year olds that they should look this way, or that – that maybe we can be a happier society. We don’t need to get rid of social media, I myself love a bit of Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest (the list goes on). But we do need to start taking less notice when it tries to make us want to be a certain way, or be like a certain person or get down to a certain weight. When it tries to make us forget that what we have, and that what we are able to financially get, isn’t inferior, and that it is enough.

Just a quick thought. Think about it. And if you made it this far, thank you, you’re a hero. Feel free to comment what you think on the subject, i’m very interested to find out!

 

And until next time…

BYE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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GQ | AUGUST | 2017

It’s so so strange to be writing a blog post after so long! Especially a GQ post; they’re my absolute favourite and it feels so good to be planning one out right now. Plus, you know, it’s an excuse to buy a GQ, I suppose. One quick thing, I’m not a massive fan of going to length on the feature articles of GQ, I like to leave that to you to search up and i’ll leave a link somewhere near the end of this post. I just want to give you the low-down on August’s issue. It’s my favourite GQ issue in a very long time, for quite a few different reasons and I had to write a post on it.

But actually, before we start, lets talk about the first few pages of any GQ issue. Traditionally cluttered with gaudy images of far too skinny and rough-looking male models and clothes that look as though they come straight out of an 80’s futuristic television series; GQ’s front pages are odd, to say the very least. This month, however, apart from a very average double page spread from Prada (nothing new there then) it’s a different story altogether. Patek Phillipe, Cartier and  Breitling watches (all stunning by the way). From the off, August’s GQ has a touch more simplicity and frankly, at last, some class about it. I like it.

I’ll skip very swiftly passed the Fila sliders a little further in…

…Even quicker passed the ‘Party Page’. Absolutely not, GQ!

BUT! It gives me great pleasure to bring your attention to… PAGE 42! WOOO YEAH!

“Why are you so excited to talk about page 42, Danny?” I hear you say. Well it’s a good thing you asked, dear reader. I’ll let you know. You see the headline on page 42 of GQ August 2017 is ‘Why You Need Liberace Hands’, followed by a large image of a hand covered in big rings. They include, Alexis Dove, Gucci (obviously, it wouldn’t be GQ without a bit of Gucci), Thomas Sabo, Alexander McQueen, Dior and Versace. Why does this make me happy? Well apparently, these rings are now ‘in’ and everyone has recently started wearing them, apparently, allegedly, some say – the bit that makes me happy is that I myself have been wearing my Thomas Sabo Falcon ring (not featured) since August 2016. Which would mean, dear reader, that I am one whole year ahead of the UK’s most fashionable men’s magazine, thank you *drops mic*.

Here are the rings:

  1. Alexis Dove – Buddha Signet Ring – £110-£135
  2. Gucci – Lion Head – £275
  3. Thomas Sabo – Black Ceramic – £149
  4. Alexander McQueen – Signet Ring – £225
  5. Dior – Rhodium Finish Ring – £460
  6. Gucci – Feline Head – £205
  7. Thomas Sabo – Skull – £198
  8. Versace – Greca and Medusa – £180 (This is the closest match I could find on Versace’s website)

Prices can be a bit steep but if your aim is to make a statement, well, ain’t no better way, my friend. My personal favourites out of this list are the two by Gucci, because I love big and wild rings, and these two have so much character.

We’ll skip, again, swiftly by the small ‘filler article’ on ‘male camel toes’ by Dylan Jones. There really isn’t any need, Dylan.

I had to take a minute to compose myself before this next bit. ‘Geezer Chic’ – Mark Francis (If you know you know) would be beside himself! Let me start with the associated brands:

Stone Island, Champion, Moschino, Lacoste, Reebok. They have a couple more but I do consider ‘Off White’ and ‘Ralph Lauren’ to be more acceptable.  The ones I have listed should never be considered ‘Chic’ in any sense of the word. Also what they refer to as ‘street’ I have always known as ‘chav’ (#SorryNotSorry) and any form of the ‘Shell Suit’ style track suit should be left firmly in 1995. Don’t even get me started on the silly little man-bags that these little boys carry these days, I mean what the actual Ffff-ashion faux pas!

Now let’s move on before I break my keyboard.

I’m going to skip the McLaren spread. I’ve no time for boring super cars (#JustNotSorry)

I’ve never really rated the ‘Taste’ section. Always looks a little rushed and last-minute in my opinion. Skipped.

GQ’s ‘Style’ section this month is on point. I mean, you know, besides Mr Chapman looking like a complete berk on the D&G runway. But my favourites include:

  • Gucci’s outrageuosly priced £640 Cuban collared silk shirt… (not on the website for some reason but here is a similarly priced ‘Flora Snake Print’ silk shirt.
  • Filson’s snazzy bag – £195 – Again, the actual bag seen in GQ isn’t on Filson’s website but in my opinion this tote bag is actually nicer.
  • North Skull’s incredible ring – £115 down to £80.
  • And finally, very unlike me, an absolute YES to Giuseppe Zenotti’s Kyoto Loafers £665 (again, they’re not on the site… but these William Velvet ( £715) loafers are very nice indeed, and are little (a lot) more toned down and understated than the Kyotos.

‘Bachelor Pad’ has gone all summer (obviously). You know the drill, here are my Top 3:

GQ, by all means hype up cycling, but surely not Chris Hoy (I refuse to add the Sir because I truly do not believe he deserves it). Doesn’t he spend his career cycling in a big lopsided circle?

As I said at the start of this post, I won’t mention Cara Delevingne’s feature article. Only that I will say I respect her drive, her ambition and absolute couldn’t-give-a-f*** attitude. Very good article, you can find that right !here! on GQ’s website. Go have a read.

Ahhh, my favourite section, the back pages – AKA ‘The Fashion Collection’. I’m just going to link my favourite items and let you go have a good look:

And last but certainly not least. The House Section. What can I possibly say?  A man can dream, can’t he?

OK so, if somehow for whatever reason you’ve made it this far in to the blog post, I love you, thank you. You’re a champion. I hope you enjoyed reading and are already itching to click the follow button *cough* please *cough*…

I’m definitely going to try my hardest to post every SUNDAY from this point onward. Again, if you would click the follow button on my blog, it helps me out immensely, doesn’t take any time at all and you’d never miss a post! and please do share it around, that’d be great. Thank You very much for reading.

Until next time…

BYE!

 

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Get Yourself a Happy Place

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I suppose everyone’s got some form of Happy Place, haven’t they. Whether it be in physical form; somewhere they visited as a child, which holds fond memories or times spent with loved ones or whether it be just somewhere they go in their mind to escape everything; a state of mind which relaxes them and calms them.

I myself kind of enjoy both; I like to be alone sometimes, I think it’s good for you; it allows you to be alone with your thoughts and not have any distraction keeping you from focusing on yourself from time to time. I like writing, it’s what I do, and in some ways it’s the only thing i’ve ever really been any good at. For me to sit alone at home and write a blog post, or a short story, makes me happy.

I also enjoy coffee shops, whether that be a big named place or a small independent coffee shop; there’s something about them that calms me, people just seem nicer when they’re sipping on a cup of coffee or a nice cup of tea than anywhere else. It’s quiet (usually) and I feel that sitting in a coffee shop is when some of my best words are written. Coffee shops are a ‘Happy Place’ of mine.

If you’re an anxious person, or someone who simply can not stand to be constantly around other people then you, my friend, need yourself a ‘Happy Place’. It seems so silly when I put it like that, like i’m telling a child to go outside and play, or something, but it’s true. Having somewhere to which you know you can go, alone, and chill out, is so important. You need it.

Often it doesn’t matter where I am. For example, right now i’m currently sitting on a rather packed train on my way home from London and i’m chill as you like, because i’m writing, and that, as you know, is my ‘Happy Place’. Writing anything; blog posts, poetry, lyrics, even short stories, it’s therapeutic for me, I love it.

Not a particularly long post, but I think it’s important that you know that you can spend some time on your own; and be alone with your thoughts. Because sometimes that’s exactly what we all need.

Until next time…

BYE!

 

 

 

 

 

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A Whole New Social Media?

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I’ve posted about Social Media before, and no doubt, there are countless blog posts about this subject all over the World Wide Interweb. But ever since I published my previous Social Media posts, things seem to have changed. A lot. Social Media has darkened, it has become a place of confrontation, trolls and sarcastically dry humour. And I love it.

Social media, it seems, moves with the tide of ever-changing society and it, again, seems to evolve and adapt to current affairs and, more importantly, how and why people react to things. That’s why it’s such an important aspect of modern life. It’s an entirely organic form of web-interaction.

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When it comes to so called social media ‘trolls’, the most important thing to do is simply to ignore them. It’s so easy to keep replying to the bait, to keep feeding them more ammunition so that they can continue to ‘troll’ (or just bug the hell out of) you. I always find it curious that people become so wound up, or hurt or are emotional because of internet trolls. Let’s use Twitter as an example here, Twitter uses the system of following, so that each member of the Twitter society can follow each other and see what all of their favourite people are up to. Unless of course you want your social media private, in which case there is the private option, whereby only people you allow access to your feed, get to make any contact. You can also ‘Block’ and even ‘Report’ any suspicious or potentially harmful activity, or for the sake of this paragraph, any Trolls. This is the case for almost all social media website these days, so there really is no excuse to allow internet trolls to have any affect on you.

My favourite form of Social Media has, for a long time now, been Twitter. Facebook is old and out-dated; it’s struggling to keep up. Vine burned bright and extinguished hard and fast. And Tumblr is massive, but I still think it needs time for everyone to actually know what it does and more importantly, how to use the damn thing. In fact the only form of Social Media that seems to be keeping up with Twitter’s appeal, in my opinion, is Instagram, which, ironically, is owned by the incredibly dull and very tired Facebook.

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Although it faces the same level of so called ‘trolling’ and sees a never ending stream of bad feeling in some comment sections, YouTube still has a wonderful sense of community to it. If you’re a fan of YouTube; and by fan I most definitely do not mean watching cat and angry  driver videos. I mean if you are a fan of YouTubers who upload regularly to their channels and create consistent and entertaining content for dedicated viewers, then you’ll know what I mean about a community feeling. It’s really quite a marvellous thing. But as I said, you won’t know if you don’t watch YouTubers. Their fans are some of the most loyal, dedicated and often ruthless people. Sometimes more so than fandoms of pop-stars or actors. These people will defend their favourite YouTubers to the end and it’s a relationship between YouTuber and fan that only grows organically over time, that lasts. Fascinating really. There is no room for a ‘viral’ YouTuber. And certainly (for most fans) absolutely no room for ‘vine’ users to think they can become YouTubers. Leave it out.

Isn’t it weird how society has moulded itself around social media. In some ways it’s rather concerning, I mean, we spend more time speaking and interacting with people on social media rather than people in real life, and by doing so, gradually distance ourselves with the more important things in life. But on the other hand, you could say that we meet new people all the time on Social Media and really it’s not as dark and scary as your parents want you to believe. YouTube is such an amazing place to find new friends, I mean like real friends, not cyber friends. I’ve met a few people through YouTube and they’re the best. So it can be a good thing, when you actually end up meeting your YouTube friends, but when these people remain on the internet, it’s probably time to get out of the house.

Social Media is very quickly becoming one of the most common forms of interaction between young people. It has its ups and downs, its pros and cons. It has it’s wonderfully innocent and beautifully like-minded communities and it’s incredibly small-minded internet trolls. One thing is for sure though, it’s growing, and it’s growing fast.

Here are a few statistics:

  • YouTube has over a billion users–almost a third of all people on the Internet–and every day, people watch hundreds of millions of hours of YouTube videos and generate billions of views.
  • YouTube overall, and even YouTube on mobile alone, reaches more 18-34 and 18-49 year-olds than any cable network in the U.S.

And of course, the big statistic…

  • The number of channels earning six figures each year on YouTube has increased by 50% y/y.

YouTubers are earning BIG. And it’s only going to get bigger. TV, watch this space. This YouTube Space.

I love mostly everything about social media and am a self confessed addict.

But what I want to  know is what YOU think of social media, Good? Bad? Not quite sure? Leave a comment!

 

And Until next time…

 

BYE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Positivity! Positivity! Positivity!

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Life is all about how you decide to spend your time. And if your time is spent focusing on negative thoughts, it stands to reason that your life will be negative. So it then obviously makes sense that if you focus your energy on positive thoughts, naturally, your life will be a more positive experience.

I’ve spent so much time in my life thinking negative thoughts. And this does’t mean always thinking something negative; oh no, but your brain (or my brain at least) can’t decipher when the thought is negative or positive. So even if you’re thinking, ‘Hmmm i’ll not have one single negative thought today, nothing negative will happen.’ Your brain will pick up the word negative, as that is the type of thought you are technically thinking at that particular point, and !walacalam! (it’s a word…) you’re thinking negative thoughts. So again, it stands to reason that if the only thing you’re thinking is ‘Hmmm ONLY positive things will happen today, I will only think positive things’, you will experience your day in a positive atmosphere. Not entirely sure if there’s much science behind that, but it’s a nice thought at least (Ah see what I did there?).

Basically, what i’m saying is that everyone, including myself, needs more positivity in their life. Think positively and it will happen!

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Blimey that was a long introduction for a blog post.

There’s a quite brilliant story of two men in a hospital room, and one of the men is blind. Every day the man who is able to see gives a lovely description of what he can see out of the window, which happened to be right next to the blind man. Across the road from the hospital was a park, filled with beautiful flowers, families running around and playing, there was a huge lake, where couples rowed boats and children played with their toy boats. So much fun, love and excitement. And on this particular day the weather was perfect; it was sunny, warm, not a cloud in the sky and the birds and all other animals were all out in force. And each day the blind man would thank him for making his day a little brighter. The thing is, the view outside the window of the hospital room wasn’t quite as the man suggested; in fact, outside was simply another building, a flat brick wall, part of the hospital. But the man made up a beautiful image for his friend so that every day he had something that would make his day that little bit more special.

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I think that’s such an important message. The man knew that the real description of a brick wall would be a straight up negative thought for the blind man, and so creates a much nicer image of positivity and natural beauty to help the man’s day consist of more positive thoughts. A simple positive thought in the morning can change your outlook for the rest of the day.

Some people always look around and wonder why it is that others are so happy. Is it money? Maybe their job is amazing? But I don’t think that really matters, I think if you think positively and never allow negativity to become even the slightest bit involved in your day, then surely happiness comes from that.

I try (or at least lately I’ve been trying) really hard to remain positive throughout every day because it allows me- even in the most difficult of times- to see the bright side in all situations. I try to stay in the moment, not thinking about past events or stressing over future ones, and I can stay positive, in the moment and be happy and grateful for everything I have; not everything I wish I had. If something goes wrong or someone does something that I don’t necessarily agree with, I just, as a wise woman once said, Shake it off!

Just a thought.

(A positive one, obviously)

Feel free to comment on WHATEVER makes you happy and how you try to remain positive throughout the day.

 

Until next time…

BYE!

 

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