Positivity! Positivity! Positivity!

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Life is all about how you decide to spend your time. And if your time is spent focusing on negative thoughts, it stands to reason that your life will be negative. So it then obviously makes sense that if you focus your energy on positive thoughts, naturally, your life will be a more positive experience.

I’ve spent so much time in my life thinking negative thoughts. And this does’t mean always thinking something negative; oh no, but your brain (or my brain at least) can’t decipher when the thought is negative or positive. So even if you’re thinking, ‘Hmmm i’ll not have one single negative thought today, nothing negative will happen.’ Your brain will pick up the word negative, as that is the type of thought you are technically thinking at that particular point, and !walacalam! (it’s a word…) you’re thinking negative thoughts. So again, it stands to reason that if the only thing you’re thinking is ‘Hmmm ONLY positive things will happen today, I will only think positive things’, you will experience your day in a positive atmosphere. Not entirely sure if there’s much science behind that, but it’s a nice thought at least (Ah see what I did there?).

Basically, what i’m saying is that everyone, including myself, needs more positivity in their life. Think positively and it will happen!

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Blimey that was a long introduction for a blog post.

There’s a quite brilliant story of two men in a hospital room, and one of the men is blind. Every day the man who is able to see gives a lovely description of what he can see out of the window, which happened to be right next to the blind man. Across the road from the hospital was a park, filled with beautiful flowers, families running around and playing, there was a huge lake, where couples rowed boats and children played with their toy boats. So much fun, love and excitement. And on this particular day the weather was perfect; it was sunny, warm, not a cloud in the sky and the birds and all other animals were all out in force. And each day the blind man would thank him for making his day a little brighter. The thing is, the view outside the window of the hospital room wasn’t quite as the man suggested; in fact, outside was simply another building, a flat brick wall, part of the hospital. But the man made up a beautiful image for his friend so that every day he had something that would make his day that little bit more special.

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I think that’s such an important message. The man knew that the real description of a brick wall would be a straight up negative thought for the blind man, and so creates a much nicer image of positivity and natural beauty to help the man’s day consist of more positive thoughts. A simple positive thought in the morning can change your outlook for the rest of the day.

Some people always look around and wonder why it is that others are so happy. Is it money? Maybe their job is amazing? But I don’t think that really matters, I think if you think positively and never allow negativity to become even the slightest bit involved in your day, then surely happiness comes from that.

I try (or at least lately I’ve been trying) really hard to remain positive throughout every day because it allows me- even in the most difficult of times- to see the bright side in all situations. I try to stay in the moment, not thinking about past events or stressing over future ones, and I can stay positive, in the moment and be happy and grateful for everything I have; not everything I wish I had. If something goes wrong or someone does something that I don’t necessarily agree with, I just, as a wise woman once said, Shake it off!

Just a thought.

(A positive one, obviously)

Feel free to comment on WHATEVER makes you happy and how you try to remain positive throughout the day.

 

Until next time…

BYE!

 

BINGE by Tyler Oakley

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I’ve read a few autobiographies in my time, most of which blab on and on about how they began from nothing and clawed their way to the top in their respected fields. I’ve never, however, read an autobiography by someone who provides such inspiration and genuine love for their supporters as Tyler Oakley’s ‘BINGE’. In his Youtube videos, Tyler exudes positivity and confidence, but his book tells the story of his life from child to present and positivity and confidence were definitely not always a part of his personality.

I won’t ruin the book by telling you everything that has happened in his personal life and career, but I will give a little insight as to how Tyler manages to take his life, however crazy it may have been so far, and set such a great example for his millions of online followers. A lot of Tyler’s followers are in fact at that age in life during which they will possibly go through a lot of what he went through, and so having someone they look up to so dearly letting them know that everything is going to be OK, is a very warming thing indeed.

Let us be honest, a book with chapters named ‘Thtory of My Life’ (dedicated to his lisp) and ‘What Michelle Obama Smells Like’ (all about his interview with the first lady!!) was never going to be boring. Tyler takes us on a VERY personal journey through his life, from eating disorders of both extremes during which time he was at at all time low, to 2014/2015; two of his most successful and influential years ever.

Tyler manages to somehow inspire his audience with every video he uploads to YouTube, and that’s possibly why he has now got 7,754,141 subscribers! He knows that they love him; adore him and would do anything for him. He says that when he feels he is in a rut he knows that he can turn to Twitter (one of his most prolific social media accounts) and whether it is 3pm or 3am there will always be someone awake somewhere in the world who will be tweeting him some sort of motivational quote, message or gif.

One of the biggest ways that he supports his fans is by telling them and reassuring them all the time that no matter what they think of themselves; or what other people think of them, they must stay true to who they are, and be unapologetically themselves. His struggle with his being accepted by certain people/members of his family because of his sexuality resonates with a hell of a lot of his fan-base, and his influence on social media has helped a lot of those people accept who they are and live with it, again,  ‘unapologetically’. He does go in to his lowest times, in which he did consider suicide.

This is where he found the Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBTQ young people ages 13-24. He called them and they helped him, like they help countless others who are so lost in life that they can only think of one way out. He now plays a huge role in lending a hand with getting the word out about The Trevor Project. This year Tyler raised $532,224 for the Trevor Project with the help of his army of loyal fans. He is very much changing the world. And in 2014 he met with The President of The United States of America no less, to try to raise the numbers of young Americans signing up for the government’s health-care plan.

The book is outstanding and if you’re a Tyler Oakley fan you’ve probably already bought it and have promptly read it twice over. But the best thing about it is that you don’t even need to have heard of him to love this book. He is a highly intelligent, modest, loveable, hugely influential loon. What isn’t there to love?

Tyler if this ever gets to you, know that I use the word ‘loon’ in the most adorable way it can possibly be used. And on behalf of everyone one of your subscribers/fans and now READERS! because you’re a freaking published author as well now!…

Thank You.

@tyleroakley

Until next time…

 

BYE!

 

 

 

Productive People Watching

People watching is fun, very fun. Mostly, when someone says they ‘people watch’ it basically means that they look at the person and judge what they’re wearing; what they look like; and typically, they will guess their name. But when you really focus on the art of ‘people watching’ you begin to think about some deeper aspects of their character; where are they going? Who are they meeting? Are they an alien life form come to mingle with he humans? (no? just me?).

You begin to try and put together the entire life of this person, and that’s the fun of it all. Because usually, for me anyway, this is the beginnings of a story. I tend to watch people; listen to conversations, things like that and then get home and begin to construct a fictional character from this and put that person in to whatever story I might be writing at that particular time.

‘People Watching’ is very common and lots of people do it without even realising. However, for me at least, as a writer, this can sometimes be the most productive part of my day. I like writing, it’s what I do and if I could do it for a living then i’d be set. So when I go somewhere I believe to be particularly interesting I love to carry a notebook with me so I can jot down all the things I see, and then gather it all up at the end of the day in to something read-worthy.

This all stems from a project I did at University about four or so years ago. My lecturer told me that one of the best ways you will find inspiration for stories is by taking a notebook and writing down what you see and hear around you. This kind of just stuck with me and I’ve been doing it ever since. Trying to work out where the story of someone is going to go simply by jotting down a single conversation-of which you will often only hear half because the person will be on the phone- is so exciting; and it also means that you’re not trying to magically conjour up a story from thin air. See, that’s today’s top tip. Eavesdrop, it’s handy.

I guess it has become a habit of mine. But fortunately it’s not an annoying one, like when I bite my nails too much or when people have a habit of talking FAR too much, even through my favourite songs, at which point I have a ‘habit’ of telling them to “shut the hell up!” This is a nice habit which allows me to be far more productive than I would usually be. It allows me to make notes for blogs, stories, poems while I don’t really even realise it. I can chill out and simultaneously be doing work at the same time.

What I think i’m trying to say here is that people watching can be far more productive than you might first think.

Channel your nosey lifestyle in to something you can be proud of. Try it, trust me, it’s fun.

 

Until next time…

BYE!

 

 

 

 

 

OBESITY…

Over the past month or so, the internet has blown up over a certain YouTuber’s attempt at ‘fat shaming’ over-weight people. Nicole Arbour (I had to google it because i’d never heard of her) uploaded a video called ‘Dear fat people’. Now, i’ll be honest, i haven’t watched more than about 20 seconds, and i’m not going to, for obvious reasons and the fact that I can’t stand that the girl clearly is trying to BE Jenna marbles.

Anyway, she, I believe, tries to shame overweight people for no real reason. So i’ve heard. But, this is a subject that does need talking about and that’s what i’m going to do here.

Let us have a quick look at a couple of statistics from the last couple of years, shall we:

  • 39% of adults aged 18 years and over were overweight in 2014, and 13% of those were obese.
  • In 2014, more than 1.9 billion adults, 18 years and older, were overweight. Of these over 600 million were obese *insert unbelievably shocked reaction*.
  • 42 million children under the age of 5 were overweight or obese in 2013. *insert ‘disappointed-in-human-race’ reaction*

I mean what the hell, people?

It boils down to something so simple it’s painful to say.   STOP EATING!

The simple fact of the matter is, you become over-weight when you take in more calories than you burn off. Now I know, I know, some people are born naturally larger than average and that’s OK. But to all of those people who spend their days in fast-food chains and who guzzle fizzy drinks, there is no excuse. Simple.

Our intake of sugar is crazy off the charts. Women should have no more than 6 teaspoons per day, which is 25 grams or 100 calories from sugar. And us men?  We can have up to 9 teaspoons of sugar daily, or 38 grams of sugar, which is around 150 calories from sugar. No matter your gender, a single 12-ounce can of Coke goes over the maximum sugar allowance for the day. FOR A WHOLE DAY!

And did you know that that Mango and Pineapple fruit smoothie that you’re giving your 5 year old because ‘it’s a healthier option to coke’ contains 40 grams of sugar. Yeah. 10 TEASPOONS OF SUGAR!  And the choc-chip frappe? 47 grams…

And yet people still allow their children to drink this stuff!!

If we simply educate our children from day one that these products are damaging to their health, and we teach them how to eat properly and bring them up in a healthier environment, where they don’t crave these sugary drinks, or crisps or cakes, then that generation would grow up healthier and so on and so on, surely? It’s not hard!

I’m not for one second saying that everyone should be super skinny and be the same size, because that’d be a bit like communism, really. But to just look after your body and be sensible with what you feed it. If we take these steps together, it CAN work.

Even with people such as Jamie Oliver who tell us to be super healthy and then simultaeneously feeds his customers super sugary food in his multi-million £, massively successful chain of super healthy restaurants.

See, I didn’t call anyone fat, I didn’t ‘fat shame’ anyone. Just pointing out some simple PREVENTABLE truths.

But please, for the sake of the generations to come. Stop it with this excessive eating culture.

 

 

Until next time…

 

BYE!

Dealing With Writer’s Block

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Have you got any idea how difficult it is to write a post about dealing with Writer’s Block, whilst at the same time suffering from writer’s block? It’s the most unproductive situation you could possibly get yourself in to. So I’m going to write this with the hope of 1. Getting out of a writing rut and 2. Possibly helping others having the same issue by letting them know how I manage to break through the ‘writer’s block’ wall; thereby killing two birds with one stone. Simple. In fact, it is possible that this might be more than just a one-part blog post. I might need two or three.

It’s also worth noting that not all people beat writer’s block in the same way and I would humbly welcome any and all comments on this post letting me know how any of you do it. Thank You.

Right, shall we begin?

If I was given a pound for every time that I stopped writing because my mind just went blank, I’d probably be a freaking billionaire by now. You see, I’ve always loved writing, but my main issue is not having the right ideas at the right time. When i’m not boosted by the right idea, the project i’m working on becomes stale through lack of motivation. But when something comes in to mind, or is given as a suggestion and I like it -this post was given as a suggestion to me- I can write non-stop for hours and it turns out OK (hopefully).

One of the ways some writers will tell you is a good way of getting out of writer’s block is by sitting in a quiet room, with nothing but a pen and pad or laptop and stare at either one until an idea comes in to your head; but I disagree. How can anything of any worth come in to any mind that is simply sitting doing nothing? As a blogger who doesn’t like to focus on a single subject; I often like to post things A. Of current trend or B. Which have or soon will have importance or impact in the world we live in. So it’s not OK nor is it in any way productive for me to sit a room and wait for an idea that may or may not come to mind.

I like to search anything and everything for the latest news or ‘trends’ – please bear in mind that I hate using that word but as it is in fact currently ‘trending’ it seems fitting for me to use it. Some of the best places to find these ‘trends’ include Twitter, Buzzfeed, YouTube, and of course, the news. BBC News; because let me tell you, if you think that you’re going to find something of note, or of any cultural value while browsing through The Sun; you’re quite delusional.

A lot of the time I just like to air my thoughts on what might be bothering me about our species. Sometimes I hate humans, and honestly, I think, what with everything that is happening lately, that that is entirely justifiable. So a while ago I posted a three-part mini blog series on here called ‘Dystopia’. It’s one of my favourite movie genres and also one subject that I can not stop thinking about and so I just had to put it down in a blog post.

I love to talk about the online world and how it is shaping and affecting our minds. More importantly, I like to spend some time talking about the people who are making this online revolution happen. I’ve done posts on Jenna Marbles, Jim Chapman and KSI and am currently in the process of planning the big one, PewDiePie. I think that’s very important with a blog; to write about things which interest YOU. If you write on something that you love, then that love will show in your words and people will enjoy your posts so much more because of it.

There are ways in which you can get yourself out of a rut when it comes to writer’s block. You can plan and plan until you’re blue in the face, you might never actually get around to writing the final piece. You could sit in a quiet, empty room until a spark of inspiration hits you suddenly; but that might never happen and you’ll be sat there wondering if you’ll ever get the right idea. Or. as I often do; you can stop thinking about what others might enjoy, and just write what you DO enjoy. As I said before, if you enjoy what you’re doing, then others will start to enjoy it with you. Be yourself.

I love to hear how others manage to break through ‘The Wall’ when it comes to writing; so any comments that you feel might be helpful to others who have issues with it would be amazing.

 

Until next time…

 

BYE!

 

A Quick Upadate

I was sitting at my desk the other day with a blank document open, ready to start a new blog post when I once again realised that I had no idea what direction my blog was going in. It’s quite a strange feeling, not knowing what I want the blog to be. At first I wanted it to simply be about anything and everything I felt like talking about; then I kind of decided to go down the fashion blog route for a while, because I wanted it to have more of a focus, you know. But now I think I have unconsciously decided that I want to go back to where I started, and just upload what ever I feel like.

A lot of bloggers- mostly beauty or fashion/lifestyle bloggers – will try and tell you that your blog must have a focus, one subject that you aim at a particular niche, so that you gain a strong and loyal following. I have to disagree, I want my blog to be for everyone to enjoy, and that’s not going to happen when there’s just one subject on here, is it.

So i’m going back to my roots; picking up where I left off; starting fresh; square one and all that. This will also mean that my blog posts will be a lot more frequent, as I’ll be posting things that I really want to be talking about, rather than things I feel I need to be talking about, simply because it will aim at a tightly knit niche.

So there you have it, this blog will be going back to film reviews, current affairs and talking about basically anything that I want to, just because it’s more fun than being so restricted with one subject. There might be the odd fashion post from time to time, but don’t get your hopes up!

I love getting comments on my blog, so feel free to comment on what ever you like, with any suggestions for new blog ideas. Thanks.

Until next time,

 

BYE!

Dystopia Part Three: The Finale

Let us wrap this up nice and quickly…

Dystopia is a pretty daunting word; it suggests absolute chaos and misery, a world full of death and no hope. But think about it for a minute; would you really want a ‘Utopia’? Would you really want a world where everything and everyone in it was perfect? I know I wouldn’t. The world is rapidly advancing and I for one am so excited to see where these new advances take us as a species. Sure we might have corporations owning everything but without these companies; Apple for one, we would be further behind than we currently are. Without having these (for lack of a better word) geniuses, at the helm of our technological world, where would we be? These people are those that need to push us forward in to tomorrow. And they’re doing it. Fast.

I started this little mini blog series as a way of finding out for myself whether or not we are actually entering a Dystopian age. But so far I have come the conclusion that a dytsopian future isn’t necessarily the disaster that it is often made out to be. Maybe the word ‘Dystopia’ can have connotations of other things other than apocalypse, or post-nuclear war; things that we associate with the end of the world. Because dystopia isn’t the end of the world; it’s simply a world in which we have fallen, and we need to pick ourselves back up. I believe that we can create new meanings for this word; as we are never realistically going to have a Utopia (which I have decided would be boring and useless) it needs to stand alone as a word that describes the ‘real future’, because that’s what it is. We aren’t looking forward in to a Utopian future; we’re looking forward to a Dystopian future and that’s okay, because that’s reality.

I think that’s exactly how i’m going to refer to a ‘dystopian’ future whenever someone begins to talk about how horrible it is. It’s reality; and however much some films try and make it the worse thing that could possibly happen; they never pretend to make it anything but a realistic foreshadowing of the future.

But you know what, i’ve just realised something; why do I keep refering to this period in our history as the future? We’re very much in it, right now. The future that we should be looking to is something much more exciting than our current perceptions of what ‘future’ is. I’m talking flying cars and USS Enterprises.

But what about YOU, what do you think of the word ‘Dystopia’?

Leave a comment and tell me!

 

Until next time…

 

BYE!