I find it very…Pinteresting.

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Obviously one of the best blog post titles ever devised by a human being. Extremely witty; full of pure banter. Completely original in every single way.

So Pinterest, eh.

Do you need ideas for your office? Pinterest. Do you want ideas for your new living room or for the perfect bedroom? Pinterest. Are you looking for beautiful tattoo designs or pictures of your dream car? Pinterest. “Oh no, where am I going to find designs and decoration ideas for my birthday party, or the wedding?” Keep Calm and Pinterest.

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Pinterest is the homeland of pictures, for anything and everything you could possibly be looking for. Create boards and Pin images to them so people looking for the same things as you, can find them quickly and easily. And as you search, and search, and search for hours, upon hours, upon hours your Pinterest experience is tailored to suit you personally as a professional Pinner. Any images that Pinterest thinks you might like, go directly to your homepage. So you can log in, or open the App on your phone and you have a mixed selection of office designs, cars and bikes, dogs, cats, gardens, tattoos, music. I mean, literally everything, just waiting to be liked, and re-pinned to your own boards and profile.

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I found Pinterest when I was looking through the app store for something new, saw that fancy looking P and thought it looked… interesting (I never pull the same pun twice), that would look Pin..diotic, ok maybe not. But you can see why I don’t try puns too often. I started using it for pictures of bands I enjoy listening to, then I gained an interest in cars and bikes. My main focus, however, is my ‘Fashion’ board. It has almost 300 Pins and is the pride and joy of my Pin..file (Profile…). I use it to Pin everything I can find about Men’s fashion. I also love my ‘Chic’ and ‘Architecture’ boards, I know, I’m SO Tumblr these days.

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You know my favourite thing about Pinterest is the fact that it is one of the more PG Social Media sites. It’s quite a chilled community and i’ve only ever really had any poor comments once or twice on one of my pins. Generally people are quite helpful or more likely they’ll keep to themselves and just enjoy pinning away. In fact, a lot of Pinterest is used by mums and their hobby craft addictions.

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I think one of the things people often find weird about Pinterest is its friendly feel. Most other social media sites have darkened over the years, and have gathered a bad reputation for being confrontational and full of internet trolls. Pinterest is a social media site and App where you can just chill and not worry about any ‘keyboard warriors’ ruining your day.

Pinterest is a wonderful thing and I strongly urge everyone to give it a go. You might feel a little alienated by it at first, but trust me, you’ll be pinning like a pro in no time!

Here, I’ll leave a link to my very own Pinterest profile ‘MiddleFloorDan‘ so you can have a look and see for yourself. Then it’s up to you to set yourself up and get pinning.

 

Until next time…

BYE!

 

 

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Love Yourself!

Have you ever asked yourself, Does anyone care?

Yes?

Let me give you the simple answer. No, they don’t. Unless they are your closest family or tightest friends; they will only ever care when they can gain something from you. It seems like way too much of a dark and pessimistic view to have on your fellow humans, but it’s true. No one truly wants to spend their life helping someone else’s dreams become a reality.

I think when it comes to moving on in life and being your own person, one of the most important things to remember is that it really does not matter what anyone else thinks of you. I know that sounds extremely cliche and overused, but again, it’s true. And when it comes to believing in yourself you don’t need anyone else, you need to begin with you. I recently read a book by a man called  Kamal Ravikant called ‘Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It’, and what he writes could change the way in which 1. You see yourself, as you become to ‘love yourself’ and accept yourself, and 2. How the rest of the world sees you. According to Ravikant, given time, you’ll (apparently) begin to notice that your life simply gets better, or in his own inspirational words ‘Magical’.

There’s a quote from the amazing film ‘The Pursuit of Happiness’ which tells us,

              ‘You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do somethin’ themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want somethin’, go get it. Period.’

You see, people will always want to see you fail because they didn’t or couldn’t do it themselves. People like that can’t stand to see others become more successful than them, and so they’ll put you down; tell you to stop; that there’s no point; that you’re not good enough or- to make themselves feel like they’re actually giving advice- that you should try other things and see if there’s anything else out there. They want you to have the life that they have, because they don’t want to see you having the life they couldn’t achieve.

In this day and age you really have got to know someone very well in order to be able to trust and rely on them. So I think ultimately what it boils down to is being able to rely entirely on your own efforts and trust your own abilities enough to be able to live your life confidently, with the safe knowledge of knowing that you’re not in a state of mind in which you need to depend on anyone for anything.

There’s something going around Social Media recently- started by DJ Khaled. He quite frequently, in his Snapchat, refers to some people as ‘They’; ‘They don’t want us to be successful’; ‘They don’t want us to be happy’; and, for some strange reason, his personal favourite, ‘They don’t want us to eat breakfast’. ‘They’ (I assume) refers to ‘Haters’ or anyone out to stop you from becoming something more than them; or, They. Stay away away from ‘They’. This is weirdly perfect; his grammar may need some tweaking, but the sentiment is perfect.

I read a little something recently which said:

                ‘Cut anyone and everyone out of your life that makes you feel small, hurt, humiliated, stupid, worthless etc. Do it swiftly and without remorse.’

I read it, and then I did it. Simple. I went to my Facebook friends list and deleted so many poisonous people and old ‘friends’ I thought I needed to keep in my life just because it was Facebook and, well,  that’s the whole idea. But after I removed them, with literally no strings attached any longer, I felt so much better. Right then and there I chose who I wanted in my life and that was my decision. The people I deleted had a part in my story at one point, but their time in my life is over, their part, done.

They’ll get over it, i’m sure.

And trying not to sound too cliche, as the author of your own life-story, only you get to make that decision; not Facebook, not family, or friends (however much they protest or tell you otherwise). You.

You just need to learn to love yourself enough to get it done.

Phew.

Until Next Time…

BYE!

 

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So What’s Going On With You?

Have you ever been asked that question by a member of your family and then subsequently wanted to (and I apologise for the violent language) batter that family member until there is no way of them ever being able to ask you that question again? I get asked it all the time by almost every member of my family every time I see them; and it drives me mad.

What do they want me to say? “Oh yeah, everything’s absolutely perfect with me. Since the last time you asked me that question 5 MINUTES AGO, I’ve become unbelievably successful in my writing career; married the woman of my dreams; and we now fly around in my diamond-encrusted pug-shaped spaceship.” I mean what are they really expecting me to say?

I actually can not understand why people feel the need to constantly ask me ‘what’s going on with [me].” When I’m doing OK in life and i’m feeling like telling everyone how i’m doing; or that my life is going particularly well; i’ll tell you. But please stop pushing for an answer that isn’t there. Sometimes i’m not doing OK; sometimes I am feeling a bit shitty; and down in the dumps, maybe a bit depressed and sometimes I don’t feel like telling anyone how my life is going, when it isn’t necessarily going the direction in which I like it to. Give me some damn time, people.

One of the worst things to say to a person who is feeling a tad depressed, or down, or anxious is ‘Oh, just smile, it could be worse’. Because to that person, at that particular time in their life, it couldn’t be worse, that’s why they’re depressed, damn it. To that person, Their life is at its lowest point and they don’t want to talk to anyone, and especially don’t wish to be told to wear a false smile just to make people think they’re doing OK. OK yes, occasionally the thing to do in this situation might very well be to approach the person and ask them how it’s all going, this is OK because they may need some company. But if they don’t want to talk; or they don’t want interaction with anyone. Let them be. It takes time.

 

Until next time.

 

BYE!

 

 

 

 

 

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It’s In Our Nature. But Why?

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  • 30 people killed in a suicide attack at a market in the northern Nigerian city of Yola,
  • 43 People Killed and at least 239 others injured when a pair of suicide bombings struck southern Beirut.
  • Bomb kills all 224 people on board a Russian airliner over Egypt’s Sinai Peninsula last month.
  • 147 killed  in an attack on Garissa University, in the north-east of Kenya, by the Somali militant group al-Shabab. April 2015.

The list could go on and on and on. These too were disasters caused entirely by monstrous militants or ISIS terrorists.

But how many people changed their Facebook profile picture to the flags of Nigeria, Kenya or Russia. How many trending Twitter hashtags were there for #PrayForNigeria/Kenya/Russia? How many of your followers or Facebook friends focused all their prayers on good thoughts and love toward the people of Beirut during it’s time of need just one day before the Paris incident? Or any of the other countless disasters which have hit our world in the past year.

The simple fact of the matter is, we feel more sensitive and give more sympathy towards any terrorist bombing or outright genocides that happen on our doorstep than to that of people living three thousand miles away. And what’s our excuse? ‘Oh, well, it happens all the time over there so we’re all used to it’… Are you kidding me.

Don’t even get me started on the countless people who completely disregard religion and God for most of their lives and then break in to #PrayFor tweets whenever shit gets crazy. It’s almost as if we as humans feel like we can completely shun the idea of religion and then ‘find’ it whenever we feel we messed up the most. It disgusting.

I’m an atheist and therefore didn’t pray for anyone in the Paris attacks, because I don’t believe that I, as a non-believer of God could do anything for those poor innocent souls. Nor can anyone actually help in any way by changing their Facebook profile to a French flag.

This type of thing has happened so many times in the past few years that I can’t actually be bothered to list every single incident. But i’ve brought it down to the ‘snowball effect’; once enough people have seen enough posts, or news stories, or #hashtags, they join in, regardless of whether or not they actually know anything about what has happened, because they need to be seen by their peers to be doing something to contribute to the ‘united front’ against terrorism. It makes them more liked by their Facebook friends. Or GETS them more LIKES, as is probably the case for most people.

One thing I can’t stand is when people actually believe their lie. They actually begin to believe that they care for these people; that they care for those effected by terrorists around the world. But did they care even just a little for all of those other people killed in recent months? Have they taken ANY notice of more than TWO MILLION innocent souls taken by these evil creatures over the past decade? (Yes, I referred to them as ‘creatures’, these things are NOT human). For anyone who can commit such atrocities is not a civilised being.

If we absolutely must stop everything we’re doing to #Pray for a disaster, then how can we, as some of the most privileged people on the planet, really pick and choose which ones we back? How can we stand by and just let the killings of 147 innocent students at a university go over our heads, and then in the next breath completely devote our entire social media presence and  news rooms to a single disaster? However horrible it may be. We can’t, is the simple and honest answer the that. If you’re going to ignore some attacks, the ignore all of them. Otherwise we need to start caring for our world as a species; and stop simply sticking to our own.

Think about it. Please.

Until next time…

Bye.

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BINGE by Tyler Oakley

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I’ve read a few autobiographies in my time, most of which blab on and on about how they began from nothing and clawed their way to the top in their respected fields. I’ve never, however, read an autobiography by someone who provides such inspiration and genuine love for their supporters as Tyler Oakley’s ‘BINGE’. In his Youtube videos, Tyler exudes positivity and confidence, but his book tells the story of his life from child to present and positivity and confidence were definitely not always a part of his personality.

I won’t ruin the book by telling you everything that has happened in his personal life and career, but I will give a little insight as to how Tyler manages to take his life, however crazy it may have been so far, and set such a great example for his millions of online followers. A lot of Tyler’s followers are in fact at that age in life during which they will possibly go through a lot of what he went through, and so having someone they look up to so dearly letting them know that everything is going to be OK, is a very warming thing indeed.

Let us be honest, a book with chapters named ‘Thtory of My Life’ (dedicated to his lisp) and ‘What Michelle Obama Smells Like’ (all about his interview with the first lady!!) was never going to be boring. Tyler takes us on a VERY personal journey through his life, from eating disorders of both extremes during which time he was at at all time low, to 2014/2015; two of his most successful and influential years ever.

Tyler manages to somehow inspire his audience with every video he uploads to YouTube, and that’s possibly why he has now got 7,754,141 subscribers! He knows that they love him; adore him and would do anything for him. He says that when he feels he is in a rut he knows that he can turn to Twitter (one of his most prolific social media accounts) and whether it is 3pm or 3am there will always be someone awake somewhere in the world who will be tweeting him some sort of motivational quote, message or gif.

One of the biggest ways that he supports his fans is by telling them and reassuring them all the time that no matter what they think of themselves; or what other people think of them, they must stay true to who they are, and be unapologetically themselves. His struggle with his being accepted by certain people/members of his family because of his sexuality resonates with a hell of a lot of his fan-base, and his influence on social media has helped a lot of those people accept who they are and live with it, again,  ‘unapologetically’. He does go in to his lowest times, in which he did consider suicide.

This is where he found the Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBTQ young people ages 13-24. He called them and they helped him, like they help countless others who are so lost in life that they can only think of one way out. He now plays a huge role in lending a hand with getting the word out about The Trevor Project. This year Tyler raised $532,224 for the Trevor Project with the help of his army of loyal fans. He is very much changing the world. And in 2014 he met with The President of The United States of America no less, to try to raise the numbers of young Americans signing up for the government’s health-care plan.

The book is outstanding and if you’re a Tyler Oakley fan you’ve probably already bought it and have promptly read it twice over. But the best thing about it is that you don’t even need to have heard of him to love this book. He is a highly intelligent, modest, loveable, hugely influential loon. What isn’t there to love?

Tyler if this ever gets to you, know that I use the word ‘loon’ in the most adorable way it can possibly be used. And on behalf of everyone one of your subscribers/fans and now READERS! because you’re a freaking published author as well now!…

Thank You.

@tyleroakley

Until next time…

 

BYE!

 

 

 

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Productive People Watching

People watching is fun, very fun. Mostly, when someone says they ‘people watch’ it basically means that they look at the person and judge what they’re wearing; what they look like; and typically, they will guess their name. But when you really focus on the art of ‘people watching’ you begin to think about some deeper aspects of their character; where are they going? Who are they meeting? Are they an alien life form come to mingle with he humans? (no? just me?).

You begin to try and put together the entire life of this person, and that’s the fun of it all. Because usually, for me anyway, this is the beginnings of a story. I tend to watch people; listen to conversations, things like that and then get home and begin to construct a fictional character from this and put that person in to whatever story I might be writing at that particular time.

‘People Watching’ is very common and lots of people do it without even realising. However, for me at least, as a writer, this can sometimes be the most productive part of my day. I like writing, it’s what I do and if I could do it for a living then i’d be set. So when I go somewhere I believe to be particularly interesting I love to carry a notebook with me so I can jot down all the things I see, and then gather it all up at the end of the day in to something read-worthy.

This all stems from a project I did at University about four or so years ago. My lecturer told me that one of the best ways you will find inspiration for stories is by taking a notebook and writing down what you see and hear around you. This kind of just stuck with me and I’ve been doing it ever since. Trying to work out where the story of someone is going to go simply by jotting down a single conversation-of which you will often only hear half because the person will be on the phone- is so exciting; and it also means that you’re not trying to magically conjour up a story from thin air. See, that’s today’s top tip. Eavesdrop, it’s handy.

I guess it has become a habit of mine. But fortunately it’s not an annoying one, like when I bite my nails too much or when people have a habit of talking FAR too much, even through my favourite songs, at which point I have a ‘habit’ of telling them to “shut the hell up!” This is a nice habit which allows me to be far more productive than I would usually be. It allows me to make notes for blogs, stories, poems while I don’t really even realise it. I can chill out and simultaneously be doing work at the same time.

What I think i’m trying to say here is that people watching can be far more productive than you might first think.

Channel your nosey lifestyle in to something you can be proud of. Try it, trust me, it’s fun.

 

Until next time…

BYE!

 

 

 

 

 

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OBESITY…

Over the past month or so, the internet has blown up over a certain YouTuber’s attempt at ‘fat shaming’ over-weight people. Nicole Arbour (I had to google it because i’d never heard of her) uploaded a video called ‘Dear fat people’. Now, i’ll be honest, i haven’t watched more than about 20 seconds, and i’m not going to, for obvious reasons and the fact that I can’t stand that the girl clearly is trying to BE Jenna marbles.

Anyway, she, I believe, tries to shame overweight people for no real reason. So i’ve heard. But, this is a subject that does need talking about and that’s what i’m going to do here.

Let us have a quick look at a couple of statistics from the last couple of years, shall we:

  • 39% of adults aged 18 years and over were overweight in 2014, and 13% of those were obese.
  • In 2014, more than 1.9 billion adults, 18 years and older, were overweight. Of these over 600 million were obese *insert unbelievably shocked reaction*.
  • 42 million children under the age of 5 were overweight or obese in 2013. *insert ‘disappointed-in-human-race’ reaction*

I mean what the hell, people?

It boils down to something so simple it’s painful to say.   STOP EATING!

The simple fact of the matter is, you become over-weight when you take in more calories than you burn off. Now I know, I know, some people are born naturally larger than average and that’s OK. But to all of those people who spend their days in fast-food chains and who guzzle fizzy drinks, there is no excuse. Simple.

Our intake of sugar is crazy off the charts. Women should have no more than 6 teaspoons per day, which is 25 grams or 100 calories from sugar. And us men?  We can have up to 9 teaspoons of sugar daily, or 38 grams of sugar, which is around 150 calories from sugar. No matter your gender, a single 12-ounce can of Coke goes over the maximum sugar allowance for the day. FOR A WHOLE DAY!

And did you know that that Mango and Pineapple fruit smoothie that you’re giving your 5 year old because ‘it’s a healthier option to coke’ contains 40 grams of sugar. Yeah. 10 TEASPOONS OF SUGAR!  And the choc-chip frappe? 47 grams…

And yet people still allow their children to drink this stuff!!

If we simply educate our children from day one that these products are damaging to their health, and we teach them how to eat properly and bring them up in a healthier environment, where they don’t crave these sugary drinks, or crisps or cakes, then that generation would grow up healthier and so on and so on, surely? It’s not hard!

I’m not for one second saying that everyone should be super skinny and be the same size, because that’d be a bit like communism, really. But to just look after your body and be sensible with what you feed it. If we take these steps together, it CAN work.

Even with people such as Jamie Oliver who tell us to be super healthy and then simultaeneously feeds his customers super sugary food in his multi-million £, massively successful chain of super healthy restaurants.

See, I didn’t call anyone fat, I didn’t ‘fat shame’ anyone. Just pointing out some simple PREVENTABLE truths.

But please, for the sake of the generations to come. Stop it with this excessive eating culture.

 

 

Until next time…

 

BYE!

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Fear- Part 1

I’m in no way an expert on this subject. But here’s the start of my brief and uneducated opinion…

It doesn’t matter what or who you fear, if you’re scared of something, whether it’s rational or not, it’s very difficult to get in to a mind-set in which you can confidently tell yourself “it’s OK, it can’t hurt me”. I myself am scared, nay, freaking petrified of spiders, big or small. But I live in England, a country where there are, as far as I know, zero species of the creepy little buggers that can actually harm me. But in my mind, they are terrifying. I think it’s the way that it doesn’t matter from which direction you’re looking, they can 1. Always see you and 2. Are able to get going in a split second at horrific speeds in any direction they fancy. Tell me i’m being irrational now.

Meanwhile in land of being afraid of buttons and moths…

Now I never poke fun of anyone for being afraid of anything, but being afraid of buttons is just hilarious and there’s no arguing.

There are, however, more forms of Fear that aren’t as obvious as being scared of a physical thing. Being afraid of failure, and so therefore spending your entire life not trying, that is a rational fear. Being afraid to love because you’ve been hurt before, that is a rational fear. Being afraid of taking the big strides to success because you’re anxious about what other people might be saying about you behind your back, that is a rational fear.

Actually, somehow arachnophobia doesn’t quite seem that bad.

You see I feel like when it comes to this subject, we spend far too much time focusing on the physical fears from which a person might suffer and not enough time focusing on those which are hidden and that often, are the ones which are more damaging. We know how to cure people of their fear of spiders; by putting them in a room full of spiders; and I should imagine that it’s not too hard to cure someone of their fear of buttons. One of the most difficult things is to cure someone of a fear that is rooted so deeply in their mind as something that can never be overcome. It goes beyond fearing what other will think; it’s deeper than that. This is about how an individual feels about their own self worth. So.

How do you stop someone fearing themselves? Time.

People need time to be able to get their thoughts straight, so they can begin to gradually get their worries out in the open, preferably with someone to whom can go and be 100% trusting in their ability to have a conversation in complete confidence. Trust is key to someone who has a mindset in which everyone is against them.

I’m going to pick this up again with Part 2 in a few days…

 

Until Next time…

 

BYE!

 

 

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Dealing With Writer’s Block

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Have you got any idea how difficult it is to write a post about dealing with Writer’s Block, whilst at the same time suffering from writer’s block? It’s the most unproductive situation you could possibly get yourself in to. So I’m going to write this with the hope of 1. Getting out of a writing rut and 2. Possibly helping others having the same issue by letting them know how I manage to break through the ‘writer’s block’ wall; thereby killing two birds with one stone. Simple. In fact, it is possible that this might be more than just a one-part blog post. I might need two or three.

It’s also worth noting that not all people beat writer’s block in the same way and I would humbly welcome any and all comments on this post letting me know how any of you do it. Thank You.

Right, shall we begin?

If I was given a pound for every time that I stopped writing because my mind just went blank, I’d probably be a freaking billionaire by now. You see, I’ve always loved writing, but my main issue is not having the right ideas at the right time. When i’m not boosted by the right idea, the project i’m working on becomes stale through lack of motivation. But when something comes in to mind, or is given as a suggestion and I like it -this post was given as a suggestion to me- I can write non-stop for hours and it turns out OK (hopefully).

One of the ways some writers will tell you is a good way of getting out of writer’s block is by sitting in a quiet room, with nothing but a pen and pad or laptop and stare at either one until an idea comes in to your head; but I disagree. How can anything of any worth come in to any mind that is simply sitting doing nothing? As a blogger who doesn’t like to focus on a single subject; I often like to post things A. Of current trend or B. Which have or soon will have importance or impact in the world we live in. So it’s not OK nor is it in any way productive for me to sit a room and wait for an idea that may or may not come to mind.

I like to search anything and everything for the latest news or ‘trends’ – please bear in mind that I hate using that word but as it is in fact currently ‘trending’ it seems fitting for me to use it. Some of the best places to find these ‘trends’ include Twitter, Buzzfeed, YouTube, and of course, the news. BBC News; because let me tell you, if you think that you’re going to find something of note, or of any cultural value while browsing through The Sun; you’re quite delusional.

A lot of the time I just like to air my thoughts on what might be bothering me about our species. Sometimes I hate humans, and honestly, I think, what with everything that is happening lately, that that is entirely justifiable. So a while ago I posted a three-part mini blog series on here called ‘Dystopia’. It’s one of my favourite movie genres and also one subject that I can not stop thinking about and so I just had to put it down in a blog post.

I love to talk about the online world and how it is shaping and affecting our minds. More importantly, I like to spend some time talking about the people who are making this online revolution happen. I’ve done posts on Jenna Marbles, Jim Chapman and KSI and am currently in the process of planning the big one, PewDiePie. I think that’s very important with a blog; to write about things which interest YOU. If you write on something that you love, then that love will show in your words and people will enjoy your posts so much more because of it.

There are ways in which you can get yourself out of a rut when it comes to writer’s block. You can plan and plan until you’re blue in the face, you might never actually get around to writing the final piece. You could sit in a quiet, empty room until a spark of inspiration hits you suddenly; but that might never happen and you’ll be sat there wondering if you’ll ever get the right idea. Or. as I often do; you can stop thinking about what others might enjoy, and just write what you DO enjoy. As I said before, if you enjoy what you’re doing, then others will start to enjoy it with you. Be yourself.

I love to hear how others manage to break through ‘The Wall’ when it comes to writing; so any comments that you feel might be helpful to others who have issues with it would be amazing.

 

Until next time…

 

BYE!

 

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Really, Social Media?

Have you ever been on Twitter or Facebook and found yourself getting more and more frustrated with a certain person or group of people and subsequently Tweet or post something that you- at the time – think nothing of? I know I have.

When using Social Media we need to remember that every Tweet; every Facebook status has implications that could possibly harm or affect someone in some way. What we, as people who use these websites every day and who take them for granted, fail to understand is that there are people behind the keyboards who are indeed affected by what we say; and if you say something harmful, it will eventually make its way back to you. Most of the time these responses are nothing but spur of the moment jabs or jokes meant to lower the importance or impact of the original message. But occasionally someone says something that truly effects the feelings others, and the responses they receive – often by third party social media users – end up destroying their lives.

I’ll give you an example as to how some people use social meadia (mainly Twitter these days) to try and hurt or in someway degrade others. The example is personal.

Ex-Prime-Minister Margaret Thatcher had just passed away and like many people who were unfortunately too young to have seen her in her PM days but nevertheless liked/admired her strong personality, I tweeted my sympathies and expressed my condolences to her family; because lets face it, she was a kind of important figure in our country. A certain ‘comedian’ (i’ll use the word extremely loosely as he isn’t in the slightest bit funny) and I wont mention his name, lets just call him ‘Vonnie Jagas’ Tweeted a few hateful remarks at Mrs Thatcher and somehow my @name managed to wiggle its way in to one of them.

I’m not sure if everyone on here is aware on the ‘wild-fire’ way in which tweets from morons with large audiences make their way swiftly around the website, so i’ll give you an idea. Seconds. I had to wait just seconds before the first ‘what a stupid little southern Tory Bullingdon Club w*****’ message seeped its way to my mention page. Needless to say dozens more made their way to me over the following hour and then people began commenting on those and it very quickly snowballed in to quite a hilarious (and might I say rather Northern dominated) mess.

But you see this is where people like myself differ from those who unfortunately have their lives ruined by simple-minded ‘keyboard warriors’ (or cowards as I prefer to refer to call them). I take it very well and try my utmost not to feed the flames. I might correct them by saying that I was never in fact a member of the Bullingdon Club and would never condone such an establishment for their utter ignorance and for thinking that they are above the rest of us. Yes, I am a Tory; yes, I am from the south; but I grew up in a modest background and attended a very average school.

I try to do what everyone else in that position should. Ignore them. Because it’s only those who feel the need read every comment and get offended by every remark who will feel the full force of its hate. If you ignore them, they will disappear; you’ll never have to see them again. Bullies have a very short attention span.

Some people however don’t take my obviously Yoda-like advice…

I’m currently reading a book by the author Jon Ronson called ‘So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed’ in which Mr Ronson tells the stories of a few people who have been directly effected by Social Media and in some cases have had their lives taking from beneath them and thrown away. I wont go in to describing the book at any length; I’ll leave it up to you to read and make your own assessments; but it saddens me to read such stories. Is this really where society has peaked? Do we really live in a ‘civilised’ world where what we say in our private time on a silly website can have devastating effects on our entire lives?

This subject annoys me. And not in the same way that Kanye West or TV Soaps annoy me. It actually angers me. It angers me that the online world has such a direct influence on our lives. It angers me that people we don’t know, nor will ever even meet in person, have such a direct influence on our life and the way in which we live it.

I’m going to cut this short because I can feel this being a two or three-part post and i’d rather do it without rushing.

 

What do you think on the subject? Let me know in the comments.

 

Until next time…

BYE!

 

 

 

 

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