It really doesn’t matter where you’re from, what your background is like or who said it, the term ‘Man Up’ is something every guy has heard at some point in his life. And actually, most women will hear it directed at them at some point, I mean seriously? This term might have had a place in our history in the past, but it’s the 21st Century, people, come on! In two very simple words, the person who said it to you wants you to conform to the really rather ridiculous stereotype that says “there’s only one type of man and you must be it to survive!”… F*** OFF!
One example of this ‘guy-culture’ is sports. I honestly can’t even count the amount of times I’ve had to explain to someone why I don’t like Football. Like if someone gave me the choice of going to a football game or going to see a play at the theatre, my answer would be all too easy. At some point in our history, men have been told they’re not allowed to like certain things if they want to be classed as a ‘real man’. Allow me to give some examples, all of which I love, by the way..
- Musicals – Les Miserable is my favourite.
- Baths – I mean really?
- Pop music – Don’t ever diss Taylor!
- The colour pink – for goodness sake!
- Certain fashion items – I love my poncho cape, don’t judge.
The list can go on and on and on…
So basically in terms of ‘manning up’, if you like these things you’re in serious danger of being called gay, or a ‘big girl’s blouse’. Which lets be honest, isn’t a massive insult, is it. Bit of a weak insult, really, and ironically that’s not very manly! But if, like myself, you happen to be a heterosexual dude just trudging along, doing your best, you’re not allowed these things!
It is becoming a little less taboo for a guy to like these things given, you know, it’s the 21st century and there’s nothing wrong with enjoying a nice bath every now and again. But it still gets me down a bit when I hear anyone use the phrase ‘man up’, especially when directed toward a young lad. As if by ‘manning up’ and not doing any of the bulleted things above they will immediately become a better, stronger person. Um…no, you fool, I can be a f****** straight guy and wear pink, chill. I can listen to and belt out Adele lyrics if I want, you fool. As a wise man once said ‘I was at the O2 singing my lungs out rude boy you’re never too big for Adele’ (If you know you know haha). And if I want to binge-watch Disney movies all day, i’m doing it. Best believe you’re opinion are falling on deaf ears, you fool.
I guess this post is aimed more at guys who really don’t fit the stereotype of ‘lad culture’ or the ideal of ‘man up’.
My dudes, it is ok.
Short short short post today, but I think a very important message. I may very well post a follow up to this on Wednesday.
Let me know what you think of the phrase ‘Man Up’.
And until next time…