Have you ever asked yourself, Does anyone care?
Let me give you the simple answer. No, they don’t. Unless they are your closest family or tightest friends; they will only ever care when they can gain something from you. It seems like way too much of a dark and pessimistic view to have on your fellow humans, but it’s true. No one truly wants to spend their life helping someone else’s dreams become a reality.
I think when it comes to moving on in life and being your own person, one of the most important things to remember is that it really does not matter what anyone else thinks of you. I know that sounds extremely cliche and overused, but again, it’s true. And when it comes to believing in yourself you don’t need anyone else, you need to begin with you. I recently read a book by a man called Kamal Ravikant called ‘Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It’, and what he writes could change the way in which 1. You see yourself, as you become to ‘love yourself’ and accept yourself, and 2. How the rest of the world sees you. According to Ravikant, given time, you’ll (apparently) begin to notice that your life simply gets better, or in his own inspirational words ‘Magical’.
There’s a quote from the amazing film ‘The Pursuit of Happiness’ which tells us,
‘You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do somethin’ themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want somethin’, go get it. Period.’
You see, people will always want to see you fail because they didn’t or couldn’t do it themselves. People like that can’t stand to see others become more successful than them, and so they’ll put you down; tell you to stop; that there’s no point; that you’re not good enough or- to make themselves feel like they’re actually giving advice- that you should try other things and see if there’s anything else out there. They want you to have the life that they have, because they don’t want to see you having the life they couldn’t achieve.
In this day and age you really have got to know someone very well in order to be able to trust and rely on them. So I think ultimately what it boils down to is being able to rely entirely on your own efforts and trust your own abilities enough to be able to live your life confidently, with the safe knowledge of knowing that you’re not in a state of mind in which you need to depend on anyone for anything.
There’s something going around Social Media recently- started by DJ Khaled. He quite frequently, in his Snapchat, refers to some people as ‘They’; ‘They don’t want us to be successful’; ‘They don’t want us to be happy’; and, for some strange reason, his personal favourite, ‘They don’t want us to eat breakfast’. ‘They’ (I assume) refers to ‘Haters’ or anyone out to stop you from becoming something more than them; or, They. Stay away away from ‘They’. This is weirdly perfect; his grammar may need some tweaking, but the sentiment is perfect.
I read a little something recently which said:
‘Cut anyone and everyone out of your life that makes you feel small, hurt, humiliated, stupid, worthless etc. Do it swiftly and without remorse.’
I read it, and then I did it. Simple. I went to my Facebook friends list and deleted so many poisonous people and old ‘friends’ I thought I needed to keep in my life just because it was Facebook and, well, that’s the whole idea. But after I removed them, with literally no strings attached any longer, I felt so much better. Right then and there I chose who I wanted in my life and that was my decision. The people I deleted had a part in my story at one point, but their time in my life is over, their part, done.
They’ll get over it, i’m sure.
And trying not to sound too cliche, as the author of your own life-story, only you get to make that decision; not Facebook, not family, or friends (however much they protest or tell you otherwise). You.
You just need to learn to love yourself enough to get it done.
Until Next Time…