Fear- Part 1

I’m in no way an expert on this subject. But here’s the start of my brief and uneducated opinion…

It doesn’t matter what or who you fear, if you’re scared of something, whether it’s rational or not, it’s very difficult to get in to a mind-set in which you can confidently tell yourself “it’s OK, it can’t hurt me”. I myself am scared, nay, freaking petrified of spiders, big or small. But I live in England, a country where there are, as far as I know, zero species of the creepy little buggers that can actually harm me. But in my mind, they are terrifying. I think it’s the way that it doesn’t matter from which direction you’re looking, they can 1. Always see you and 2. Are able to get going in a split second at horrific speeds in any direction they fancy. Tell me i’m being irrational now.

Meanwhile in land of being afraid of buttons and moths…

Now I never poke fun of anyone for being afraid of anything, but being afraid of buttons is just hilarious and there’s no arguing.

There are, however, more forms of Fear that aren’t as obvious as being scared of a physical thing. Being afraid of failure, and so therefore spending your entire life not trying, that is a rational fear. Being afraid to love because you’ve been hurt before, that is a rational fear. Being afraid of taking the big strides to success because you’re anxious about what other people might be saying about you behind your back, that is a rational fear.

Actually, somehow arachnophobia doesn’t quite seem that bad.

You see I feel like when it comes to this subject, we spend far too much time focusing on the physical fears from which a person might suffer and not enough time focusing on those which are hidden and that often, are the ones which are more damaging. We know how to cure people of their fear of spiders; by putting them in a room full of spiders; and I should imagine that it’s not too hard to cure someone of their fear of buttons. One of the most difficult things is to cure someone of a fear that is rooted so deeply in their mind as something that can never be overcome. It goes beyond fearing what other will think; it’s deeper than that. This is about how an individual feels about their own self worth. So.

How do you stop someone fearing themselves? Time.

People need time to be able to get their thoughts straight, so they can begin to gradually get their worries out in the open, preferably with someone to whom can go and be 100% trusting in their ability to have a conversation in complete confidence. Trust is key to someone who has a mindset in which everyone is against them.

I’m going to pick this up again with Part 2 in a few days…


Until Next time…





Dealing With Writer’s Block

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Have you got any idea how difficult it is to write a post about dealing with Writer’s Block, whilst at the same time suffering from writer’s block? It’s the most unproductive situation you could possibly get yourself in to. So I’m going to write this with the hope of 1. Getting out of a writing rut and 2. Possibly helping others having the same issue by letting them know how I manage to break through the ‘writer’s block’ wall; thereby killing two birds with one stone. Simple. In fact, it is possible that this might be more than just a one-part blog post. I might need two or three.

It’s also worth noting that not all people beat writer’s block in the same way and I would humbly welcome any and all comments on this post letting me know how any of you do it. Thank You.

Right, shall we begin?

If I was given a pound for every time that I stopped writing because my mind just went blank, I’d probably be a freaking billionaire by now. You see, I’ve always loved writing, but my main issue is not having the right ideas at the right time. When i’m not boosted by the right idea, the project i’m working on becomes stale through lack of motivation. But when something comes in to mind, or is given as a suggestion and I like it -this post was given as a suggestion to me- I can write non-stop for hours and it turns out OK (hopefully).

One of the ways some writers will tell you is a good way of getting out of writer’s block is by sitting in a quiet room, with nothing but a pen and pad or laptop and stare at either one until an idea comes in to your head; but I disagree. How can anything of any worth come in to any mind that is simply sitting doing nothing? As a blogger who doesn’t like to focus on a single subject; I often like to post things A. Of current trend or B. Which have or soon will have importance or impact in the world we live in. So it’s not OK nor is it in any way productive for me to sit a room and wait for an idea that may or may not come to mind.

I like to search anything and everything for the latest news or ‘trends’ – please bear in mind that I hate using that word but as it is in fact currently ‘trending’ it seems fitting for me to use it. Some of the best places to find these ‘trends’ include Twitter, Buzzfeed, YouTube, and of course, the news. BBC News; because let me tell you, if you think that you’re going to find something of note, or of any cultural value while browsing through The Sun; you’re quite delusional.

A lot of the time I just like to air my thoughts on what might be bothering me about our species. Sometimes I hate humans, and honestly, I think, what with everything that is happening lately, that that is entirely justifiable. So a while ago I posted a three-part mini blog series on here called ‘Dystopia’. It’s one of my favourite movie genres and also one subject that I can not stop thinking about and so I just had to put it down in a blog post.

I love to talk about the online world and how it is shaping and affecting our minds. More importantly, I like to spend some time talking about the people who are making this online revolution happen. I’ve done posts on Jenna Marbles, Jim Chapman and KSI and am currently in the process of planning the big one, PewDiePie. I think that’s very important with a blog; to write about things which interest YOU. If you write on something that you love, then that love will show in your words and people will enjoy your posts so much more because of it.

There are ways in which you can get yourself out of a rut when it comes to writer’s block. You can plan and plan until you’re blue in the face, you might never actually get around to writing the final piece. You could sit in a quiet, empty room until a spark of inspiration hits you suddenly; but that might never happen and you’ll be sat there wondering if you’ll ever get the right idea. Or. as I often do; you can stop thinking about what others might enjoy, and just write what you DO enjoy. As I said before, if you enjoy what you’re doing, then others will start to enjoy it with you. Be yourself.

I love to hear how others manage to break through ‘The Wall’ when it comes to writing; so any comments that you feel might be helpful to others who have issues with it would be amazing.


Until next time…